But sending like tons of messages, even if it says we are on the active board is really annoying. I mean, just because it says that doesn't mean we are actually able to respond or anything of the sort. And when we don't respond in 5 minutes and it still says that we're on the active board, you message us again.....dude, that's both annoying and creepy.

I'm asking for some guideline on how to post such things.

Perhaps investing in some common sense would be a good start. Status updates are where people ask little questions without annoying the crap out of people. Most of us are also on skype. If you can figure that out then that's where you can ask qestions without them being annoying. One last thing, a very important bit of advice:

GOOGLE IS YOUR FRIEND.